You are lying in bed, staring at the ceiling. Your mind is racing at 6,000 thoughts per minute. You are anxious, fearful, and wondering if this pain is ever going to get better. You have an Inner Big Rig, and right now, your “Mind Motor” is redlining. But because you are sitting on the couch […]
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When Your Kids Call Another Man “Dad”: Surviving the Ultimate Divorce Trigger
I came home one day, and my daughter was talking about her day. Casually, like it was nothing, she dropped two words that hit me like a runaway freight train. “Daddy Junior.” I pulled the mental air brakes. “Who is Daddy Junior?” I asked. That is when I found out. Some other guy was moving […]
Stuck in the Divorce Ditch? Why You Need to Find Your “Granny Gear”
There is a weird connection between divorce and deep, dark depression. It doesn’t usually hit you all at once. It builds over time. For me, that depression built until I found myself hiding from the world, living under the I-10 overpass in Houston. I was homeless. I stunk. I had erected a “stench boundary” to […]
The Wedding Song Trigger: How to Turn Your Divorce Triggers into Builder Tools
I was sitting in my “MacOffice” (McDonald’s) doing some work. The place was full of noise—people talking, kids laughing, the hum of the fryers. And then, a song came on the overhead speakers. Air Supply. “All Out of Love.” It wasn’t just a song. It was the song. It was the song that played at […]
Middle-of-the-Night Panic Attacks: How to Stop the “Big C” (Cortisol) from Hijacking Your Brain
I’m coming to you live from the “Convoy Broadcasting System” (my Kia Forte) in the dead of night. Why? Because I just had an anxiety attack. Live. On camera. My tech wasn’t working. I was on a bad cell signal instead of WiFi. And suddenly, the “Big C” kicked in. No, not cancer. Cortisol. The […]
The Eagle or the Chicken? A “Divine Blueprint” for Finding Peace After Divorce
We often talk about the Science of the “Pinky Protocol”—using your brain to hack your recovery. But today, we are talking about the Spirit. Because you can have the best strategy in the world, but if your spiritual tank is empty, you aren’t leaving the driveway. I want to give you a Divine Blueprint for […]
Forget New Year’s Resolutions: Why Divorced Dads Need the “Pinky Protocol” for 2026
We made it. We survived the “Holiday Hell.” The tree is down, the lights are packed away, and now we are staring down the barrel of January. For a lot of us, this is when the “Perfect Storm” shifts. We aren’t fighting over who gets the kids for Christmas anymore—now we are dealing with the […]
Surviving the “Perfect Storm” of Divorce: Financial Ruin, Custody Wars, and Holiday Hell
I’m coming to you live from the darkness. I’m sitting in my Kia Forte (because the big rig is in the shop of my mind), and I’m looking at the radar. There is a storm converging on us, gentlemen. If you’ve seen the movie The Perfect Storm, you know what happens when weather fronts collide. […]
I Watched a Couple Brawl in the Parking Lot: Why You Need to “Check Your Hand” Before You Wreck Your Family
I’m sitting in my “corner office” (my car), looking out the window, and I see it happen right in front of me. A man and a woman are screaming at each other. He’s got a hold of her hair. Her head is tipped back. They are wrestling for the door handle of the back seat. […]
I Hated My “Drill Sergeant” Dad for 50 Years: How to Finally Heal the Father Wound
I spent half a century hating the man who raised me. To the outside world, he was a war hero. A man with two Purple Hearts from Korea (one he showed us, and one he hid because it was in his ass). He was a man who volunteered at 17 to serve his country. To […]